The Energy Model of Therapeutic Change

Having lived 30 years in extremely cold temperatures and a ton of snow and grey skies for half the year or more, my soul passions and life-energy were put on hold during those periods. I had dreamed of moving to a warmer climate but there were always friends, family, or a job that kept me from making the change. So, like a flower that gets mowed down every time it starts to bloom, that's how I felt every year come November through April. Little did I know that half of achieving our dreams is our location! That's right! It's really as simple as that!

Years ago, a client struggled very hard for years to get out of a longtime abusive marriage.  After years of being sad, lonely, and miserable, she went back to school to re-tool, got a high-paying job to support herself and found a nice apartment in a secured building.  She had some close friends whom she rallied to come and move her while her husband was gone and, after an adrenaline filled afternoon, she was settled in.  For the first time in years, she felt a sense of peace and relief. But that first night and days to follow, her husband called her phone constantly - though she didn't answer.  But the more he called, the more stressed she became.  She was encouraged to block his number to give herself time to 'detox' from his energy but she refused and would just sit and watch it ring.  She had moved to a different part of the city to lessen the chances of running into him but within days, rather than shop in her new neighborhood, she was driving six m...